The Kids Are Alright

Every generation panics about the next one. Every generation is wrong in the same way.

The kids aren't broken. They're adapted to an environment you didn't grow up in and can't fully see. The behaviors that look like pathology—short attention spans, friction intolerance, present-orientation—are rational responses to a world that shifted underneath everyone while we were arguing about screen time.

This series makes one argument: your model of childhood is fragile, not your children.


The Core Thesis

The frameworks we use to evaluate kids—Baumrind's parenting styles, DSM disorder categories, "appropriate" developmental milestones—were built for a world with predictable careers, stable institutions, and legible success metrics.

None of those assumptions hold anymore.

When the terrain changes faster than the map-makers can update, the people navigating by feel aren't lost. They're the only ones who aren't lying to themselves about where they are.


What This Series Covers

The 4 Parenting Styles Were Built for a World That No Longer Exists
Why Baumrind's 1966 framework assumes a stability that evaporated.
Authoritative Parenting Worked When the Future Was Predictable
Steel-manning the gold standard, then showing its hidden assumption.
Your Kids Aren't Distracted—They're Running a Higher Frame Rate
ADHD as relative to environment, not absolute dysfunction.
Screen Time Panic Is a Category Error
Why "how much" is the wrong question entirely.
DoorDash Kids Aren't Lazy—They're Friction-Optimized
Three generations of friction reduction, and who's actually adapted.
The Avocado Toast Math Is Actually Correct
Ergodicity and why your kid's financial intuitions might be better than yours.
Disorder Is Relative to Environment
When the context shifts, the definition of dysfunction shifts with it.
Your Kids Are Training for Jobs That Don't Exist Yet
Why their "time-wasting" might be skill acquisition you can't recognize.
Co-Regulation in Chaos: The Only Parenting Skill That Transfers
The only parenting skill that transfers when you can't predict the terrain.
The Kids Are Alright: Stop Optimizing for the Remembered World
The full synthesis: they're not broken, you're measuring wrong.


Who This Is For

Parents who suspect the panic is overblown but can't articulate why.

Anyone who's noticed that the "kids these days" complaint hasn't changed in content for three thousand years, and maybe that says something about the complaint rather than the kids.

People who want a complexity-informed take on development that doesn't pretend we know what the future looks like.


The kids are alright. The question is whether the adults can update fast enough to see it.